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I kept telling everyone that Johnny Mnemonic was ahead of its time and it's tech was going to come true. It predicted everything included in This Cyborg Life, except for the success of Ice-T's career, and cyborg tranny hookers, and why Takeshi Kitano was there, über brain-hacking dolphins, and... on second thought, what the fuck is that movie about?
@madog: All I can remember is Keanu Reeves and Dina Meyer hanging out like in a VW van or something suspended high in the air for some reason. And yeah, there was a dolphin.
I paid to see that movie in theater, and I realized at some point that every movie I've ever seen based on a short story has turned out to be crap. #sextoys
Jackie Treehorn: People forget that the brain is the biggest erogenous zone.
The Dude: For you maybe.
Jackie Treehorn: Of Course you have to take the good with the bad. New technology let's do exciting things with interactive erotic software. The wave of the future, Dude. One hundred percent electronic!
The Dude: Hmmm. Wow. I still jerk off manually.
Jackie Treehorn: (laughs) Of course you do. #sextoys
While relationships are sometimes difficult, I feel the loss of human interaction, passion and affection cant be replaced, even by the IStud. Sex isnt just about the most technically perfect orgasm (or 5) that you can have, but its about exploration, passion, caring, friendship, and whatever else the individual brings to the mix. IStud might be fun once, but for the long haul, serious hot passionate sex, give me a very real, flesh and blood, imperfect human. Anything we dont do technically perfect the first time, we can go back and get it right the second time. #sextoys
@Curves: Exactly. And it's interesting to me how little attention we've paid the emotional/relational side of sexuality and relationships (granted, we also understand that side far less than we understand the physical side). Love your perspective, which I'd guess is shared by many here.
@Curves: It is interesting you mention that. It's a completely different thing. I mean, you can literally wire someone up to get an orgasm at the push of an (electronic) button. But the whole interaction of the 2 (more than 2 may be fun, but I feel the intimacy is left behind in those situations) is what makes sex more than "rub rub rub *SPLAT*!"
Evolution has turned sex (like the act of eating) more than just a means to an end or even more than a simple reward. It's a complicated and wonderful social interaction. #sextoys
@The Overmind (aka that guy): To use your eating analogy, yes, you can drive through and get something in a styrofoam box and eat it while in the car, OR you can sit down to savor a sumptous 12 course meal. The choice is yours.
ps-the "rub rub splat" thing cracked me up #sextoys
@jakemg: Yes, the strap goes around the scrotum. Some models don't stay on very well. Not having a penis, I can't vouch for the experience myself but I have heard from other men that it's a major upgrade from other models and stays on pretty well in most positions. #sextoys
@debbyherbenick: So people actually use these? I'm not uptight, man, but that seems a little weird. It's like wearing that shirt at Halloween with the built in muscles. That and how can a woman look at a dude with a fake Wang strapped to his pleasure pouch and not run screaming? #sextoys
@jakemg: Yes, people do actually use penis extenders & sleeves. There are even glow in the dark ones available (which I have a particularly difficult time taking seriously). Having sex knowing that there's a bright green thing inside your vagina could make it hard to concentrate enough to have an orgasm... well, that is, unless that's your thing. :) #sextoys
@grok666: Plus, actual vacuum devices are not so safe for many men - light vacuum pressure (a la Fleshlight) is fine - but true vacuum cleaners? Eeks. Steer clear of the Dyson, man. #sextoys
Ideally I prefer toys that can be played with together as a couple, but I must say I am intrigued by the concept of a toy that can be played with as a long distance couple. #sextoys
@Software_Goddess: Agreed. The concept of being able to physically stimulate one another long distance is great. Being a wordsmith and storyteller, I appreciate what imagination and voice alone can accomplish for long distance couples, but the ability to add physical sensations is an amazing idea. Unfortunately, some silly concepts (and the unfortunate moniker of "teledildonics") have created a stigma that will mostly likely tarnish the acceptability and legitimacy for many, for a long time. As it it, sex toys for males carry a tremendous stigma, as opposed to female sex toys which have become quite generally acceptable, or even fashionable. #sextoys
@met2art: Great points - it'll be interesting to chart the course of sex toy acceptance. After all, it wasn't that long ago (60s & 70s) when even widely respected sex therapists talked about the dangers of women becoming habituated to their vibrators or "replacing" men. And now our most recent data suggest that more than half (53%) of women and nearly half of men have used vibrators (most of men's use is with a partner though a good % have tried them alone, too). Also, that most women & men feel positively about women using vibrators. So we'll see how this distance-toy-play goes... #sextoys
@clarketelecom: Yes, great points! The mind is so important to sexual pleasure and talking dirty, telling stories or whispering sweet lovely things can up a couple's arousal. #sextoys
@debbyherbenick: Thanks, Debby. In my opinion the gender disparity of toy acceptance stems from long-held biases of what a "man" should be: A virile, high-endurance machine who requires little to no assistance, least of all in getting a partner, or during sex. Any sort of mechanical assistance, whether it be a faux-vaginal sleeve, using a vibrator alone (or to assist a partner), penile extensions, etc, seem to run counter to that assertion that he is powerful and in control. Could it conversely be true that women see the use of toys as a liberating experience that frees them from dependence on others, and lets them "chart their own course" as it were? Or do they simply enjoy the experience without allowing cultural or gender bias ruin the moment? Personally I feel that men's use of toys is largely mocked for seeming to be a dimunition of male prowess. The overwhelming commentary in regard to Fleshlights seems to be one of "why not just go out and get a girl?" as though, for everyone, it were that simple.
These levels of disparity in sexual openness and acceptance between men and women are fascinating to me. Women's bisexuality and toy use has become much more widely accepted (if not praised and sought after), yet in men those same issues are still largely viewed as bizarre, awkward, or disturbing. In this regard women seem to have become the forerunners for open acceptance of different sexual lifestyles and the acceptance thereof. Male pride and ego seem to be the deciding factor here. My apologies for the wall of text. Fascinating subject... I could go on, and on, but I'll stop here! :) Thanks again for an insightful article. #sextoys
@met2art: You're welcome - I enjoyed writing in. And yes, I agree that gender expectations and stereotypes play significant roles in how we've viewed men's and women's toys. I think earlier on, that's also why women's use of toys was looked down on - because of ideas that men should always be ready & able to satisfy a woman (and that women shouldn't be masturbating). Now that we're (mostly) past those ideas as a sexuality and have liberated at least some aspects of women's sexuality, we need to do a better job of embracing the diverse ways that men experience their sexuality. One thing I loved about the movie "I Love You, Man" was the range of different men (& ideas of masculinity) in that movie. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts! #sextoys
*EDIT* I'm not going to stick a joystick in my ass and wiggle around. I'm not going to hold two liters while I screw someone over the internet.
I'm not going to make an Adam Frucci joke.
@Cankles: Yeah, I guess. Probably just my wild fantasies getting out again. But nobody makes sex less fun than Giz writers, including Debbie. From the boyish ways of Blam, Jason, Jesus, and all the other to the 'professional' talk of Debbie, giz can't get it right (not that I expect them to, it's a gadget blog after all). I guess when I saw a young, beautiful female guest writer with a story to tell I let my imagination get the best of me. #sextoys
@geiko: Personally, I find Debbie's style very accessible, smart, and humorous. She has a dry, sarcastic wit, with woody undertones. Goes well with pork. #sextoys
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@hodayathink wants WWFRD back!: True, but I guess I just don't make the trip as often as I should. Actually after I wrote that, what appears to be a black hole showed up in my room. My nose also grew a bit. #sextoys
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The Dude: For you maybe.
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Evolution has turned sex (like the act of eating) more than just a means to an end or even more than a simple reward. It's a complicated and wonderful social interaction. #sextoys
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ps-the "rub rub splat" thing cracked me up #sextoys
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And after reading that reply, not only am I amazed at how well put this comment was, I am also, in fact, hungry.
*Now where did I put that steak?* #sextoys
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The woman in yellow (first image) looks like she's interested in tasing my balls. That sounds not fun.
How does the ride on stay on? Is that a strap that goes around the bean bag? Really? #sextoys
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These levels of disparity in sexual openness and acceptance between men and women are fascinating to me. Women's bisexuality and toy use has become much more widely accepted (if not praised and sought after), yet in men those same issues are still largely viewed as bizarre, awkward, or disturbing. In this regard women seem to have become the forerunners for open acceptance of different sexual lifestyles and the acceptance thereof. Male pride and ego seem to be the deciding factor here. My apologies for the wall of text. Fascinating subject... I could go on, and on, but I'll stop here! :) Thanks again for an insightful article. #sextoys
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I'm not going to make an Adam Frucci joke.
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Count me in
That was great. #sextoys
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