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madog
11/14/09

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I kept telling everyone that Johnny Mnemonic was ahead of its time and it's tech was going to come true. It predicted everything included in This Cyborg Life, except for the success of Ice-T's career, and cyborg tranny hookers, and why Takeshi Kitano was there, über brain-hacking dolphins, and... on second thought, what the fuck is that movie about?
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ludwigk
11/16/09

@madog: All I can remember is Keanu Reeves and Dina Meyer hanging out like in a VW van or something suspended high in the air for some reason. And yeah, there was a dolphin.

I paid to see that movie in theater, and I realized at some point that every movie I've ever seen based on a short story has turned out to be crap. #sextoys
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Curves
11/14/09

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While relationships are sometimes difficult, I feel the loss of human interaction, passion and affection cant be replaced, even by the IStud. Sex isnt just about the most technically perfect orgasm (or 5) that you can have, but its about exploration, passion, caring, friendship, and whatever else the individual brings to the mix. IStud might be fun once, but for the long haul, serious hot passionate sex, give me a very real, flesh and blood, imperfect human. Anything we dont do technically perfect the first time, we can go back and get it right the second time. #sextoys
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maven2k
11/14/09

@Curves: I like your attitude. Seriously. #sextoys
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debbyherbenick
11/14/09

@Curves: Exactly. And it's interesting to me how little attention we've paid the emotional/relational side of sexuality and relationships (granted, we also understand that side far less than we understand the physical side). Love your perspective, which I'd guess is shared by many here.
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The Overmind (aka that guy)
11/14/09

@Curves: It is interesting you mention that. It's a completely different thing. I mean, you can literally wire someone up to get an orgasm at the push of an (electronic) button. But the whole interaction of the 2 (more than 2 may be fun, but I feel the intimacy is left behind in those situations) is what makes sex more than "rub rub rub *SPLAT*!"

Evolution has turned sex (like the act of eating) more than just a means to an end or even more than a simple reward. It's a complicated and wonderful social interaction. #sextoys
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Curves
11/15/09

@The Overmind (aka that guy): To use your eating analogy, yes, you can drive through and get something in a styrofoam box and eat it while in the car, OR you can sit down to savor a sumptous 12 course meal. The choice is yours.

ps-the "rub rub splat" thing cracked me up #sextoys
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The Overmind (aka that guy)
11/16/09

@Curves: Onomatopeia is more than a funny word, it is a means to true written music.

And after reading that reply, not only am I amazed at how well put this comment was, I am also, in fact, hungry.

*Now where did I put that steak?* #sextoys
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Shamoononon: I shave my legs.
11/14/09

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My name is Ram and my tank is full. #sextoys
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Pessimippopotamus
11/14/09

@Shamoononon: I shave my legs.: Let's see how many people get that. #sextoys
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Software_Goddess
11/14/09

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Ideally I prefer toys that can be played with together as a couple, but I must say I am intrigued by the concept of a toy that can be played with as a long distance couple. #sextoys
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met2art
11/14/09

@Software_Goddess: Agreed. The concept of being able to physically stimulate one another long distance is great. Being a wordsmith and storyteller, I appreciate what imagination and voice alone can accomplish for long distance couples, but the ability to add physical sensations is an amazing idea. Unfortunately, some silly concepts (and the unfortunate moniker of "teledildonics") have created a stigma that will mostly likely tarnish the acceptability and legitimacy for many, for a long time. As it it, sex toys for males carry a tremendous stigma, as opposed to female sex toys which have become quite generally acceptable, or even fashionable. #sextoys
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clarketelecom
11/14/09

@met2art: Talking dirty is an art form in of itself. It's like an analog to sex, overboard can be painfully lame, underwhelming - ditto. #sextoys
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debbyherbenick
11/14/09

@met2art: Great points - it'll be interesting to chart the course of sex toy acceptance. After all, it wasn't that long ago (60s & 70s) when even widely respected sex therapists talked about the dangers of women becoming habituated to their vibrators or "replacing" men. And now our most recent data suggest that more than half (53%) of women and nearly half of men have used vibrators (most of men's use is with a partner though a good % have tried them alone, too). Also, that most women & men feel positively about women using vibrators. So we'll see how this distance-toy-play goes... #sextoys
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debbyherbenick
11/14/09

@clarketelecom: Yes, great points! The mind is so important to sexual pleasure and talking dirty, telling stories or whispering sweet lovely things can up a couple's arousal. #sextoys
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met2art
11/14/09

@debbyherbenick: Thanks, Debby. In my opinion the gender disparity of toy acceptance stems from long-held biases of what a "man" should be: A virile, high-endurance machine who requires little to no assistance, least of all in getting a partner, or during sex. Any sort of mechanical assistance, whether it be a faux-vaginal sleeve, using a vibrator alone (or to assist a partner), penile extensions, etc, seem to run counter to that assertion that he is powerful and in control. Could it conversely be true that women see the use of toys as a liberating experience that frees them from dependence on others, and lets them "chart their own course" as it were? Or do they simply enjoy the experience without allowing cultural or gender bias ruin the moment? Personally I feel that men's use of toys is largely mocked for seeming to be a dimunition of male prowess. The overwhelming commentary in regard to Fleshlights seems to be one of "why not just go out and get a girl?" as though, for everyone, it were that simple.

These levels of disparity in sexual openness and acceptance between men and women are fascinating to me. Women's bisexuality and toy use has become much more widely accepted (if not praised and sought after), yet in men those same issues are still largely viewed as bizarre, awkward, or disturbing. In this regard women seem to have become the forerunners for open acceptance of different sexual lifestyles and the acceptance thereof. Male pride and ego seem to be the deciding factor here. My apologies for the wall of text. Fascinating subject... I could go on, and on, but I'll stop here! :) Thanks again for an insightful article. #sextoys
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debbyherbenick
11/14/09

@met2art: You're welcome - I enjoyed writing in. And yes, I agree that gender expectations and stereotypes play significant roles in how we've viewed men's and women's toys. I think earlier on, that's also why women's use of toys was looked down on - because of ideas that men should always be ready & able to satisfy a woman (and that women shouldn't be masturbating). Now that we're (mostly) past those ideas as a sexuality and have liberated at least some aspects of women's sexuality, we need to do a better job of embracing the diverse ways that men experience their sexuality. One thing I loved about the movie "I Love You, Man" was the range of different men (& ideas of masculinity) in that movie. Thanks again for sharing your thoughts! #sextoys
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Calzo
11/14/09

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It's official. My penis is just for show.

*EDIT* I'm not going to stick a joystick in my ass and wiggle around. I'm not going to hold two liters while I screw someone over the internet.
I'm not going to make an Adam Frucci joke.
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Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected
11/14/09

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I don't know who you are, Dr. Debby Herbenick. But you need to post here more often. #sextoys
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Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected
11/14/09

@Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected: Wow, how did that warrant getting unstarred? I was praising her and her good article. Jesus. #sextoys
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B-low
11/14/09

@Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected: Know your editors better sir. #sextoys
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Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected
11/14/09

@B-low: What does that mean? That they'll do weird stuff at random? #sextoys
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B-low
11/14/09

@Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected: Actually she's not a real doctor so she probably had trouble figuring out how to reply and ended up unstarring you instead. What is a PhD in Health Behaviour? Do they study nose pickers? #sextoys
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Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected
11/14/09

@B-low: It wasn't her, it was Jesus.
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B-low
11/14/09

@Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected: Don't blame this on god... I'm kidding Jesus I know you're an editor please don't hammer ban me! #sextoys
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Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected
11/14/09

@B-low: I just find it weird. Did I say something bad? #sextoys
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met2art
11/14/09

@Mike Zuniga: Your original comment, in my opinion, was a compliment. I personally don't believe the content had anything to do with you being unstarred.

This may clear things up a bit...
[gawker.com]

Specifically:
"Now about those star powers. The editors are the only ones who can give you a star, and we'll be giving them out to the commenters we trust the most. This means that many people who have stars now will be losing them."

It's an older FAQ entry, and whether or not it is relevant to your situation, I do not know. But if so, my condolences. I can sympathize with the loss of a star. Good luck getting it back. You'd earned it. #sextoys
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robogobo
11/14/09

@met2art: personally, I think it's important to ignore ranking, starring, modding, rep, etc on boards. What are we, a bunch of asskissers? I'd rather say what I want and be dugg down (to cite the most obtuse modding- ever) than to forever try to find the right thing to say to make the hall monitors praise me. Don't sweat it, kid- there's a bigger world out there.

edit: (this is all fabulously ironic, I know, since Mike was indeed kissing ass).

In any case, the author completely misused "pun intended." I just wanted to point that out. Besides there being no pun in 'Ride On', if there were, and it was good, it would be obviously intended.
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orthorim
11/14/09

@robogobo: The whole star system is a load of BS. It's supposed to make Giz easier to read but it doesn't work. Instead if you don't turn on all comments -which everyone should do, not that this would ever get modded up enough that the people who it is addressed to hear it - then you get to see the same old people trying the same old jokes again.

Some of them are funny. But their comments would get modded up in a normal mod system anyway.

Star system = FAIL

It's really amazing, actually. I used to read Engadget but then their comment system was so hopelessly broken that I switched to Giz. It was good for a while, then the introduced the star system. #sextoys
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debbyherbenick
11/14/09

@Mike Zuniga: That was Unexpected: Why thank you! I appreciate the sex-tech love. :) And P.S. the commenters below are correct; I have nothing to do with the star system as I'm not an editor - I'm just a research scientist who studies sexual health (& sex toys) and has the fun privilege of posting on Giz every now and then.
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