today is the third anniversary of the death of my best friend. i still visit his myspace page and write things on it on his birthday and the anniversary of his death. it's one of the only reasons i still have a myspace account. trust me, this is a really great, important idea. people who use facebook (or myspace) use it to keep in contact with people from distant places, and having a memorial page for a friend can be a very cathartic thing for a group of people spread out all over the world. i wish my friend had hopped on the facebook bandwagon back in 2006, because i would give anything to have another opportunity to look at his face and see what he used to think. #facebookdeath
@Katherine M Cox: I still send IMs to someone 2 years after their death. Its actually a great source of comfort to me. Somehow, I think he gets them even in heaven.
God must have awesome Wifi. #facebookdeath
@collectiveego: It may be denial, but, its what I can bear. Who says denial is a bad thing anyway? Most people operate under at least some form of selective denial. Acceptance isnt always a good thing. If I accepted it, I would simply fall to pieces. #facebookdeath
@Coolmodo: Considering the brouhaha that happened when Facebook users tried to delete their own pages, I assume that page deletion is a hassle that FB would like to avoid as much as humanly possible. #facebookdeath
@Coolmodo: It's merely the modern equivalent of allowing friends and loved ones to memorialize and pay respects to their deceased. I choose to see it as a way for spiritual beliefs and practices to "catch up" to modern social practices.
A cousin of mine, who passed away several years ago in sudden tragic circumstances, has a memorial myspace page. The thousands of family, friends, California firefighters, and emergency services personnel who knew him contributed to it. It has become a loving tribute to a young man who was deeply loved, and many stll visit it to "tell him" things he would have liked. It is, to me, the next step from visiting a grave to commune with the deceased spiritually. #facebookdeath
Well with this in mind, I guess it would be fitting that I should be placed into a Nintendo Entertainment System chassis....and hope no one blows into the cartridge slot.
@Jrsy Devil's Bright Idea®: No. Nothing dramatic like that. Just next to my mom. The cemetery said we could put his cremains in anything, just as long as it fit in their special outer container. We found a small coffee pot that just fit. The coffee pot was something we joked about while he was still alive. So my sisters and I made it happen. The humor of it made everything else a little easier.
When it comes to funerals and what to do with the deceased's corpse or ashes, I think it gets very personal and it all depends on the relatives and friends experiences and feelings.
So I'm not the one to judge if this is proper or not.
And neither should be any of you.
But I'm not religious, so I'll always think that, if the whole setup brings good memories from the guy, so be it!
People nowadays are too judgemental and attatched to tradition and rituals... some of them which completely lost it's true meaning to pomposity or ostentation.
I actually feel more sympathy for this family and the guy because they discarded all the stuff that "they had to do" or "that was expected for them to do" to create something simpler and more meaningful to them.
@Curves: While I haven't yet worked out the logistics, I want to place in my will that burying my body is completely out of the question, then die in such a way that burning my body is too dangerous to be attempted.
My only regret is not being able to see the looks of confusion on the faces of the people that have to figure out what to do with my corpse. And the clock is ticking.
@OCEntertainment: Depending on how you word the specifics of your request, burial at sea might be the answer.
Or, push a viking style boat out into the ocean such that a safe radius is maintained, THEN burn you up. If the bikini atoll is remote enough for nuclear testing, I bet that could be your funeral pyre.
i still think my family should take my remains to the taxidermist and place me in my oldest child's house as either a standing coat hanger with arms outstretched or sitting on the couch with my hands placed just right to hold a remote in one hand and a cup in the other.
I want my corpse dumped in a shallow grave in the woods, so a group of youngsters can go on an adventure, learn about life, confront the town bully, and mature in to well adjusted adults (after years of therapy of course).
@thechansen: Possibly. The moral is, if you find a body in the middle of the woods and have to battle Keifer Sutherland, you will either get stabbed to death, marry Rebecca Romijn, lose all your money, or get fired from ST:TNG.
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[thegravebook.com] #facebookdeath
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They then take that page created by the newly deceased and kinda "bronze" it for the friends of the fallen.
Does it make a little more sense to you? #facebookdeath
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j/k
I understand the idea, but I don't understand why the pages can't just be deleted? #facebookdeath
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A cousin of mine, who passed away several years ago in sudden tragic circumstances, has a memorial myspace page. The thousands of family, friends, California firefighters, and emergency services personnel who knew him contributed to it. It has become a loving tribute to a young man who was deeply loved, and many stll visit it to "tell him" things he would have liked. It is, to me, the next step from visiting a grave to commune with the deceased spiritually. #facebookdeath
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If you were offended by that Twilight comment, then I apologize. #facebookdeath
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My dad, who was 92 when he died, was cremated and buried in a coffee pot. He loved his coffee.
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So I'm not the one to judge if this is proper or not.
And neither should be any of you.
But I'm not religious, so I'll always think that, if the whole setup brings good memories from the guy, so be it!
People nowadays are too judgemental and attatched to tradition and rituals... some of them which completely lost it's true meaning to pomposity or ostentation.
I actually feel more sympathy for this family and the guy because they discarded all the stuff that "they had to do" or "that was expected for them to do" to create something simpler and more meaningful to them.
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Guys...
Can you hear me? Anyone?
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(Its not like you guys wouldnt want your ashes scattered around the PlayBoy mansion or over a m@rij#ania field or something.)
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My only regret is not being able to see the looks of confusion on the faces of the people that have to figure out what to do with my corpse. And the clock is ticking.
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Or, push a viking style boat out into the ocean such that a safe radius is maintained, THEN burn you up. If the bikini atoll is remote enough for nuclear testing, I bet that could be your funeral pyre.
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Yeah, THAT phrase won't be mispronounced by an anchor person.
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See, that's the kind of off-center funeral planning I like. You're hired.
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Weapons of Ash, Destruction....
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So that was their most modest receptacle...?
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(how do I make sure it doesn't do that next time??)
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with masking tape on the urn that just says "Mike" ;-)
they wouldn't know what the hell to think or do!! That would rule!!!!
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