OkCupid isn’t the first company to be criticized for eroding user privacy with a real name policy. Facebook faced backlash in 2014 for insisting that its users sign up with their real names. The Electronic Frontier Foundation noted that Facebook’s policy was particularly harmful to activists and members of the LGBTQ community.

“Pseudonyms can enable people to access information, social services, and gain entry to communities while maintaining safety,” EFF’s Jillian York and Dia Kayyali wrote. “This is especially true online, where individuals from distributed or marginalized groups can find community, spread awareness of issues they face, and seek information.”

To make the entire situation worse, OkCupid decided to take its announcement as an opportunity to mock the usernames its users have chosen in a blog post titled, “An Open Letter on Why We’re Removing Usernames, Addressed to the Worst Ones We’ve Ever Seen.


“We want you, BigDaddyFlash916, to go by who you are, and not be hidden beneath another layer of mystique. Even if that mystique is crucial to you and your dating life, unicorn__jizz,” the post reads.

But after OkCupid users objected to the change on Twitter, the company backpedalled, saying it wouldn’t require users to add their full real names to their profiles. “You do not need to use your government name or even your full first name,” the company tweeted. “Use the name, nickname, or initials you’d like your date to call you on OkCupid.”


A spokesperson for the company told Gizmodo that OkCupid will only ask users for their first names, not their last names. A name will be considered valid as long as it is two letters long and does not contain numbers, symbols, or emojis. There is also a list of banned words you cannot use.

“We take privacy at OkCupid very seriously. We recognize that OkCupid is a very personal experience and we want all of our members to feel safe, which is why months prior to rolling out this change we stopped indexing our profiles on Google, even though it hurts SEO, it’s a step in the right direction,” the spokesperson said. “We encourage users who do not feel comfortable to instead use a nickname or their initials.”


For users who want to avoid using their real names altogether, Armageddon has some suggestions. “Coming up with a pseudonym is one potential solution, Another is pushing back against OkCupid and this harmful new policy, either through closing your account or contacting them directly, to let them know it’s not okay.”