First lady Melania Trump presented her long-awaited “Be Best” initiative on Monday, which entails something about protecting children from social media cyberbullies and also the opioid crisis. And boy, was said presentation a doozy, laden with the kind of Hallmark card-inspired language and dramatic music that one typically associates with bad made-for-TV movies.
this shit is absolutely beyond parody man pic.twitter.com/V8uysoPgtd
— Aaron Rupar (@atrupar) May 7, 2018
But it turns out there’s some real gold here! As part of the initiative, the first lady also released Federal Trade Commission documents on “Talking with Kids About Being Online.” Though they appear to be the same ones the FTC previously released in 2014, they’re actually pretty useful—because for all effective purposes, our president is an angry, impulsive, and extremely online child.
Here’s some of the FTC’s excellent advice about the risks of the internet the first lady might want to take into account when coaching her husband on what to do when he logs on.
Communicate the risks of being online
The FTC warns that “inappropriate conduct” entails a false feeling of anonymity, and specifically that “Kids sometimes forget that they’re still accountable for their actions.” It’s important, because kids might say something to a mass audience, and then realize after the fact that there could be consequences to those statements.
Re Megyn Kelly quote: "you could see there was blood coming out of her eyes, blood coming out of her wherever" (NOSE). Just got on w/thought
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) August 8, 2015
They might also just post whatever they’re feeling in the moment, regardless of whether that could undermine them longterm—say, by proposing a “complete and total shutdown of Muslims entering the United States” accompanied by racist statements and tweets that later keep on coming up in court.
Hillary Clinton said that it is O.K. to ban Muslims from Israel by building a WALL, but not O.K. to do so in the U.S. We must be vigilant!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) January 2, 2016
Everybody is arguing whether or not it is a BAN. Call it what you want, it is about keeping bad people (with bad intentions) out of country!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) February 1, 2017
That's right, we need a TRAVEL BAN for certain DANGEROUS countries, not some politically correct term that won't help us protect our people!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) June 6, 2017
Study what General Pershing of the United States did to terrorists when caught. There was no more Radical Islamic Terror for 35 years!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) August 17, 2017
The FTC also warns that “Some people online have bad intentions. They might be bullies, predators, hackers, or scammers.”
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— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) August 4, 2009
"@StevanScheer: @realDonaldTrump attended Tax Lien Tax Seminar Trump University. Changed my life!!! Able to open my own company Scheer Group
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) August 25, 2013
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— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) January 31, 2014
"@KinnardJan: @Itsjoeco @realDonaldTrump I took Trump University class and saved my home!"
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) March 2, 2016
The primary plaintiff in the phony Trump University suit wants to abandon the case. Disgraceful!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) March 6, 2016
Finally, the FTC advises of “inappropriate content,” saying parents “May be concerned that your kids could find pornography, violence, or hate speech online.”
An 'extremely credible source' has called my office and told me that @BarackObama's birth certificate is a fraud.
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) August 6, 2012
"@WhiteGenocideTM: @realDonaldTrump Poor Jeb. I could've sworn I saw him outside Trump Tower the other day! https://t.co/e5uLRubqla"
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) January 22, 2016
Set limits on screen time before it becomes a problem
The FTC advises that parents be proactive to set limits about how often and when they can be online, even though it can be difficult to enforce them. This is important, because if reasonable limits on screen time aren’t imposed, it might have negative impacts on a child’s attention span. Or it could encourage them to furiously weigh in on everything to a mass audience immediately, without considering whether that’s the best course of action.
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/yAZg1uZnpy pic.twitter.com/o8UltcVhda
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) April 25, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/AjyZaPnVqT pic.twitter.com/jlbLFFxkFV
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) April 27, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/pKvh7InfyK pic.twitter.com/JmH9gLrVkM
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) May 10, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops treating him like a toddler. https://t.co/aXjdOAglr2 pic.twitter.com/jGAWHL33oX
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) May 15, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/i0PyEvRM41 pic.twitter.com/8dQVZ1Dqut
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) May 16, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/Y8PG3fjT5B pic.twitter.com/UkSTo5GFdG
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) May 18, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/EPriSsvoKF pic.twitter.com/tUW4yDfv0L
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) May 25, 2017
I'll believe that Trump is growing into the presidency when his staff stops talking about him like a toddler. https://t.co/mZPTxGZ2bq pic.twitter.com/AAZFNwgWD6
— Daniel W. Drezner (@dandrezner) June 1, 2017
Remember that the people you post about exist offline too
It’s really important to emphasize that other people your child might talk about or interact with online are real people with feelings, emotions, and lives of their own.
Otherwise, your kid might tweet about how they couldn’t have possibly sexually assaulted somebody because they’re too smart to do it in front of cameras, neglecting how that might come across to others who understand fundamental things like human dignity.
A woman I don’t know and, to the best of my knowledge, never met, is on the FRONT PAGE of the Fake News Washington Post saying I kissed her (for two minutes yet) in the lobby of Trump Tower 12 years ago. Never happened! Who would do this in a public space with live security……
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) February 20, 2018
Remember: Don’t overshare
The FTC advises parents tell their kids that “Some pitfalls that come with online socializing are sharing too much information, or posting pictures, videos, or words that can damage a reputation or hurt someone’s feelings.” It’s possible that one’s child could end up oversharing, whether about how a specific soft drink is or is not making them less portly, or whether or not they and their dad give “good brain.”
I have never seen a thin person drinking Diet Coke.
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) October 14, 2012
Diet Coke tweet had a monster response–dammit, I wish the stuff worked.
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) October 16, 2012
"@YoungBasedGod_g: @realDonaldTrump your dad gives good brain?? Damn" It's called genes!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) June 29, 2013
The FTC really hammers home this point that someone should be careful about what kind of information would be negligent to post online, say statements that undermine a legal defense about your awareness of a series of shady financial transactions to pay off a porn star.
Mr. Cohen, an attorney, received a monthly retainer, not from the campaign and having nothing to do with the campaign, from which he entered into, through reimbursement, a private contract between two parties, known as a non-disclosure agreement, or NDA. These agreements are…..
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) May 3, 2018
…very common among celebrities and people of wealth. In this case it is in full force and effect and will be used in Arbitration for damages against Ms. Clifford (Daniels). The agreement was used to stop the false and extortionist accusations made by her about an affair,……
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) May 3, 2018
…despite already having signed a detailed letter admitting that there was no affair. Prior to its violation by Ms. Clifford and her attorney, this was a private agreement. Money from the campaign, or campaign contributions, played no roll in this transaction.
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) May 3, 2018
Tell your kids what cyberbullying is, and what the possible consequences are
Hmmm.
Rosie is crude, rude, obnoxious and dumb – other than that I like her very much!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 11, 2014
I refuse to call Megyn Kelly a bimbo, because that would not be politically correct. Instead I will only call her a lightweight reporter!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) January 27, 2016
I heard poorly rated @Morning_Joe speaks badly of me (don't watch anymore). Then how come low I.Q. Crazy Mika, along with Psycho Joe, came..
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) June 29, 2017
I heard poorly rated @Morning_Joe speaks badly of me (don't watch anymore). Then how come low I.Q. Crazy Mika, along with Psycho Joe, came..
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) June 29, 2017
…to Mar-a-Lago 3 nights in a row around New Year's Eve, and insisted on joining me. She was bleeding badly from a face-lift. I said no!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) June 29, 2017
Crazy Joe Scarborough and dumb as a rock Mika are not bad people, but their low rated show is dominated by their NBC bosses. Too bad!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) July 1, 2017
Why would Kim Jong-un insult me by calling me "old," when I would NEVER call him "short and fat?" Oh well, I try so hard to be his friend – and maybe someday that will happen!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) November 12, 2017
Now that the three basketball players are out of China and saved from years in jail, LaVar Ball, the father of LiAngelo, is unaccepting of what I did for his son and that shoplifting is no big deal. I should have left them in jail!
— Donald J. Trump (@realDonaldTrump) November 19, 2017
Don’t ever sext. Just don’t!
The FTC warns that “in addition to risking their reputation and their friendships,” sexting could possibly cause legal consequences down the line. This is super good advice, because even what seems to be a fleeting dalliance could cause truly awful problems for your kid in the future if the sexts ever get out.
Neither Stormy Daniels nor her attorney would say whether they have video, photos or texts regarding Mr. Trump. According to the NDA, Daniels was supposed to turn over those materials. #60Minutes
— 60 Minutes (@60Minutes) March 26, 2018
Only use mobile devices and apps that are certified safe
For example, it would be truly bad if your child didn’t learn these habits and repeatedly refused to stop using a possibly insecure personal device while in command of the world’s most powerful military and one of its most expansive security apparatuses. It would be doubly bad if that lack of discipline seemed to result in a lax and permissive environment for subordinates setting priorities for those military and intelligence organs!
And it would be really super bad if they’d continued to do so after receiving multiple warnings from qualified personnel, as Politico noted:
The NSA briefers explained that cyberspies could be using sophisticated malware to turn the personal cellphones of White House aides into clandestine listening devices, to take photos and video without the user’s knowledge and to transfer vast amounts of data via Wi-Fi networks and Bluetooth, according to one former senior U.S. intelligence official familiar with the briefings.
In any case, it’s great that Melania Trump and the FTC are issuing these warnings now. It’s much easier to build smart habits in youth—because god only knows what could happen if one grows up without ever learning them.
[FTC]