If a man is disrespecting or harassing a woman online, there are a few tools at her disposal. She can block him. She can report him. She can ignore him. But sending a playful emoji to try and convey your discomfort is not going to be effective. In fact, by responding to the shitty behavior, such a reply arguably incentivizes it. With an emoji.


Tinder did note in its blog post that it is “rolling out messaging standards to all users to set the tone and promote best practices for a better Tinder experience,” adding that the platform has recently made reporting easier for users. If the dating app truly wanted to demonstrate it was prioritizing anti-harassment measures, however, it wouldn’t bury these updates below a comedy video—and it wouldn’t champion emoji as a way to deal with bad men online.

“Bring in a comedian!” should not be your response to the question “How should we deal with harassment on our platform?” And yet here we are.